While Sacred Sexuality is beautiful and helps to nurture healthy relationships, it is just-not-Tantra.Tantra means, ’A technology to expand’ and the highest goal of the Tantric Yogini is to merge with Divine Consciousness. To come into the deep knowing of ‘I Am that I Am.’
A minuscule amount of these ‘technologies’ are sexual in nature. The West just grabbed onto those for obvious reasons. Sex sells. There are abundantly more important practices that utilise the sexual/creative energy in the body, without another person involved. The point is to master this energy within and to not need to expel it through sexual desire and sex. To merge this Life Force from one’s root into the crown, is the unification process of the Self with Divinity.
Sexuality is the union of two people. (Sex) Spirituality is the union of the human and the divine consciousness. (Tantra)
The practitioner is on the quest of enlightenment but they are not puritanical about it. They do not deny their desires but rather journey along with them.
The tantric yogi understands the shadow and how Consciousness Evolution is not a neat and clean undertaking. One may be releasing an ego pattern in one area of life, but the pain of that experience might have them engaging in a pleasure somewhere else in order to cope.
All of life ‘Dark and Light’ is part of the process of coming into inner union. One cannot deny the body if one wants to truly transcend. Renouncing the body is a form of dissociation. The Tantric Yogi is not afraid of their desires and does not judge their own messy and imperfect path.
It’s like taking two steps forward and one step back. For example, I am vegan but when I went through a major dissolution of ‘romantic attachment’ and became a nun, my body immediately started to consume dairy. She needed the comfort of Mother’s milk to cope with the psychic transformation. I didn’t judge that, I just did it, because I know how this path works.
Tantra is doing what comes naturally so the body feels safe when stabilising transformation. Sometimes you need a little dark to integrate the greater dark.